I'm a female with genital herpes and i rarely have 'actual' break outs with blisters and all but I'm often itchy and it looks and feels like there's a cut and it's always in the same spot. When I itch it just makes it worse! could this be a type of outbreak?? And does this increase my chance of spreading the virus??

The answer to both your questions is absolutely yes. Herpes live in your nerve cell endings and that's why you feel an itchiness. Avoid sexual contact at this time to reduce the chance of spreading it to someone else.